Safety Plan
Abusers can take drastic actions when they find out they are losing the thing they thought they had control over. Emotions are high. For many victims, this is the MOST DANGEROUS time in an abusive relationship. Do the thinking BEFORE taking action. A safety plan might look like this:


If I decide to leave, places I can go where I feel comfortable and safe are:

1. __________________________________

2. __________________________________

3. __________________________________



I will always let ___________________ and ____________________ know where I am and with whom I am staying.


I will always carry ____________________'s phone number, in case I need to call them because I am uncomfortable or I am being hurt. Their number is ____________________.


Other ways I can get home when I am out are:

1. __________________________________

2. __________________________________



If I am out and need help, I can always call __________________________________ .


In an emergency, I can call 911 or the statewide hotline number 1-800-__________________, or my local domestic violence program at ____________________.


My code word is _______________________. This is a signal for my family, friends, and neighbors to help me, in case I need to assistance without alarming my abuser.


If you live with your abuser
If I have to leave my home, I can go to:

1. __________________________________

2. __________________________________

3. __________________________________


I can tell ___________________ about the violence and request that they call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my house.


When I leave I should take: __________________________


I can also leave copies of these items with ______________________, who can keep them for me.



After leaving a relationship, it is important to STAY safe:
 - Mix up your schedule.
 - Take different routes on the way to class, to work, or back home.
 - Walk with friends.
 - Avoid contact with your abusive ex-partner.
 - If possible, change all your phone numbers.