If you are a victim of dating violence, or the warning signs describe you, please keep reading.       Part of the abuser's power comes from secrecy of the abuse. Let people know what is happening so they can look out for you. Any pattern of abuse, is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Safety Plan Does your behavior feel right or natural to YOU? Are you acting in a certain way because you WANT to, or out of fear for what your partner might think or do? There are laws to help and protect you. For example, if you are under 18, you may be able to get a protection order with the help of an adult. This says the abuser may not harass you or come into contact with you for up to 90 days. Abusers often isolate victims and threaten harm if anyone else discovers the abuse. As a result, victims think they are the only ones involved in this type of relationship. Dating violence happens more than you think, and people are prepared to help. Abusers blame their victims as though they deserve to be abused. The perpetrator is ALWAYS responsible for his/her actions. Abusers are completely responsible for their behavior, regardless of their habits or weaknesses.   Resources