Get Involved Among Friends Be proud of your opinions! Speaking up against injustice and abuse among your friends is a great step you can take towards creating a society in which relationship violence is not tolerated. Consider these actions: 1. Don't laugh at jokes about other people's partners. Even if it's a friend making the jokes, it reinforces the abuser. Not going along with the joke sends a signal that putting down a partner is not okay. 2. Be there for your friends. Let them know you are available, especially when they have problems. 3. Pay attention to your friends' relationships. Making sure your friends are safe is not being nosy. 4. Know your resources. Identify a trusted adult you can turn to if anyone you know is in trouble. 5. Don't put up with abusive behavior or harassment. You can send a message by walking away, innocent bystander? or just telling your friend to stop it.     I remember the first time Kayla went out with Nate. She came home late and ran right into my room to tell me all about the whole thing.